Jealousy among women. Isn’t it a shame that this is still an issue in 2019? I never really thought about writing about it because I didn’t realize how many of us still have to deal with it. It wasn’t until my poll (feel free to answer it btw :)) that I got several responses from women who had the most interesting stories.
One of the most common places where you see women putting each other down is on the work-floor. Grown women making up rumors like we’re in high school just because they don’t have what you have.
One women told me that after getting a promotion (because she was working extremely hard) heard rumors about herself sleeping with her boss to get further up the ladder. I mean, you see this in movies but you don’t really expect that “mature” women would actually use this disgusting method to tear somebody else down. I mean think about it, what in heaven’s name will it get her? Will she get promoted now? will my friend get demoted? No! Of course not!
But it never occurs to these type of women to maybe work harder themselves or even talk to the person who got the promotion to maybe learn a thing or two about their work methods/ethics.
Because another thing these women tend to do is ghost the person who got a promotion even though they used to be friends or they were cordial with each other. Only thing this brings is hate and resentment in her life, not a promotion lol.
Even worst (in my opinion) is jealousy from the people close to you. Best friends, cousins and sometimes even siblings.
With this particular group you (usually) don’t see it right away because they usually love you and don’t want to hurt you intentionally but when you do realize it, it just cuts a little bit deeper than with colleagues (obviously).
From the stories I’ve gathered it usually comes down to self-esteem issues. Maybe you are more outgoing, more secure about your looks, or have a certain path in your career (or at school). Whatever it may be, it sucks that the ones you love have an issue with something in your life that usually doesn’t even concern them.
And the thing is, in these situations, at first, you don’t want to address the issue because you’re afraid of hurting the other person. But it really gets tiring when someone constantly wants to prove that they are better than you, can get things you can’t at that moment, tries to sabotage relationships you have or tries to have better relationships with certain people that you already have a relationship with (either with other friends, cousins and in sibling cases even your parents).
Now with this situation it’s hard to just let it go. So in my opinion you can do two things; either talk to them about it (without blame or judgement because it usually comes from a place of uncertainty) or you can decide to create some space. Even though it can help them to talk about it with them, you come first. 🙂 So if you feel like this relationship just drains you or you just don’t want to have to deal with that kind of negativity in your life, deal with it however you see fit.
And if you happen to be in a situation where you find yourself tearing someone else down, or you feel jealousy in any way try to spin it back to your own life. Try to really focus on that weak point where it comes from and find a way to deal with it differently. If you just talk about your issue; people will try to help you fix it. That’s what support is all about.
So basically, to either side of this equation; try to be supportive. It is so much more fun!